Being "me" , my authenticity and my humanity to others

Being “me” is considered as a great opportunity in this world of existence. As a human person, I have experienced my freedom as a being. I have experienced life in this world for eighteen years of my existence and I can say that I have nothing to compare with it anymore.

My being as a human person relies on the purpose I have chosen to live for. We have our own self-purpose in life; we have this different views, insights, and reflections in specific things. A being must have his own rights to life, as Boethius would say it, ‘to be a person on its own right such a nature would have to posses or “own” its own act of existence.’ For St. Thomas, ‘to be a person, it is not enough merely to possess a complete individual intellectual nature.’ A human person is consisting of a body and soul to be a considered as being. 

To be a human person is to live with a purpose, meaning that I have set my goals in life to be considered as human. If I will not set any goals at all nor achieve my level of existence, then my life is at chaos to the point that I am meaningless. My purpose in life is to live for others in this world of existence. I am no man in an island because there is no being that can live in his own world, own life and own existence. Being me as a human person means that I am the master of myself, that I have my own privilege in existence. 

Freedom is the main point of being a human person. This is the meaning of being “me” as a human person. I live in freedom on doing good, living my life with a purpose by setting my mind on the goals I wanted to become in the future.
 

“God created man in his image and likeness”

Theologically speaking, I say that my authenticity as a human person lie on the Supreme Being, the Creator of all things. I can’t be a being if He did not create me Himself. God created the world and everything on it. we have been created in his image and likeness. We are all dependent on Him. Second is myself, I rely on my instincts, my decisions and my goal to a better life in the future. Like for example when I am lost in a place I don’t know, I search for the possible way to survive by myself and then if things got worse, that’s the time I search for dependency. That will be the signal to ask for help.  

Lastly are the others. Like what I’ve mentioned above, I rely for help when needed. In my years of existence, I have learned to value the essence of a true company because it will be your turning point when you badly needed help. Once I have this friend near our home, he was a good example of being a friend, one time I got a burden and I try to hide it form them because in my way of thinking, it will only cause them nuisance.
However, this friend of mine whom I hardly tell my problems knows what I’m going through, he immediately ask me if I something was wrong. With that simple concern, I didn’t know what happened that I just suddenly blurted it all out to him. It was helpful though he’s not the type of ideal counselor nor talkative or something, his simple presence made me feel at ease. This made my conclusion that you really need to rely on others for help and that the quote saying that no man is an island.

What is caring? It is the way and attitude that giving a respect to others. It is a feeling of concern for others. It is giving attention to others. According to many, caring is also showing that you love the one you care for. Care is the most sought within love. Without these love will not be itself or it includes care to establish a relationship. To care is to say that you love the person.

But is it really caring? Sometimes we only care to impress somebody, or the one whom we care. Most of these happen in rich family, wherein they will take care of their parents to have a bigger share in their riches that they will leave. Sometimes care can have a greedy part, that you care for your own good and not truly caring. Is the simple phrase that saying “hey, I care or you” means that the person who told you that really cares? I don’t think so because I do believe that action speaks louder than words and with that the person must not only say that he care but also do it. That’s when true caring come from.  

For me, caring must come form the heart. It is the way to make the person realize that you care a lot and that you love that person. Caring is not only having your presence around the person though it is also included but there’s more than that. Caring also includes loving. There are many ways of loving and there are also many ways to show it. Caring must be pure and constant for it is the way to appreciate the other person. If you say that you care somebody, mean it. It is worth a gem to care for a specific person. This will probably create a circle of friends when you care another person. It is like giving, not expecting back in return but in reality, there is already a return from the beginning. It is also another way of owning somebody, with simple care, you own that person already for you have given him a part of yourself and he, himself had given already his appreciation. It is good to give an extra care to others because it is also the proof that you are not alone, caring avoids loneliness in a specific person. For example, two couples had just ended their relationship, without care of friends, both of them will really feel alone and devastated. But with the aid and counseling of friends, they can realize that they’ve been cared more than the care they’ve got from their relationship. Care has many ways; it can be shown in giving, in reaching out, on giving advice, on love and openness. This is why care is significant to every being. Every individual has the right to be loved and simple caring is one way of expressing it.

Being me as a being, I can be truly human person by caring. Since I was a child, I have been taught on how to care. I have already created a circle of friends since I was a child. When I was in elementary, my mother was the one who sends me to school then wait for me until the school hours are finished. I was teased then as “mama’s boy.” I ignore this for the fact that I realize that the reason my mother is doing it is that because she cares for me and I appreciate that and take it as a compliment. Then I said to myself that when I grew up I would do the same thing. And so did I, when I first enter the seminary as a minor seminarian, I was new to the compound and I hardly have friends. Then a moment later, I saw a seminarian, one o my classmates, whom I feel the urge to talk to at that time. Since then we became good friends, I applied what my mother did to me on the first stage, the simple care, concern is also a simple act of giving love to others. I continue to pursue that kind of attitude every time we have our going home and it’s really worth it. Though I’m not really good at socialization, I made a circle of friends, developed my social life and became a true human to others.